I am currently working on a video piece about fatherhood, and the subject that keeps coming up is personal responsibility.
Many people blame their 'issues' in life on their childhood, and how they were raised. Many blame their parents (or absence of their parents) for their current inadequacies and problems. And while I realize that there is some legitimacy to those arguments, I also believe that at some point in life, an individual must take personal responsibility for their currrent behavior and their future.
I'm curious to get your thoughts on the following...
At what point in life must a person take responsibility for their own actions, and no longer remain stuck by dwelling on the conditions of their childhood?
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It just seems to me that the person who blames others for their current condition is already behind the eight ball.
They start the scenario with a victim mentality.
Individuals who see themselves as victims are rarely those who "pull themselves up by the bootstraps". Or when they look in the mirror, they don't seem to see themselves as change agents. Rather, they seem to only see the damage that others (and life) have inflicted.
I heard a phrase once, "It's not WHO is right that matters as much as WHAT is right."
Who is to blame, in my opinion, is not as important as overcoming the challenges and weaknesses to get to wholeness.
It appears then that the blame game is really an individual's excuse not to address the real issue of moving forward, regardless of who can be blamed for the current state of affairs.
Well, this is a very hard subject matter, and all people are different time managers of taking responsibility for ones action. So, living theses almost 50 years, I have come to the conclusion that if you don't get directions from God you my never make that change, and if you find him you must ask for knowleadge or you will just keep being in the prayer line. This life is all about holding on to Gods hand and believing.
When you are hurt by the ones that are responsible for caring for you. There is a process that happens, this grief process takes you through 5 different stages. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression,and Acceptance. I think that a lot of people get stuck in the anger phase and hold on to resentment and envy. Anger will be directed at themselves or displaced on others, and even God.If they cannot come to resolve this grief, they will be disfuntional until it is resolved. It depends on the person, how well they can cope with a loss. If the person is able to separate themselves from the loss( mom used crack and was not a good mom)and realize that they have a choice to make-and dont have to be just like MOM-then they move towards acceptance. Peace
We must all take responsibility for each other. We are products of one another. You can't just have that "Oh it happened so long ago, get over" attitude.
God made us all individuals to serve a communities.
If my friend has an attitude, maybe I'm not doing something right.
Weather we realize it or not we have a bigger affect on our neighbors then we think.
People should stop that independent for self attitude, there is a reason GOD created us as a people.
We must all take responsibility for our ACTIONS and LACK OFF ACTION.
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