In response to my recent blog, Can you keep a secret?, anonymous made a very interesting statement...
Its how you deal with (secrets) will determine the future...Once I found out the secret, we made steps to deal with, and correct, the problem, together. I also realized that my reaction... was going to set the tone in our home, so it was important for me to set a positive, not negative atmosphere.
A person will only expose their true feelings and issues to a person that they trust.
So, if I want the truth, then I need to create an atmosphere that is truth-friendly. In other words, I trust that when I tell you something, you won't flip out or faint.
I remember sharing some challenging things with my parents as a teenager, not know how they would respond. I thought that their response would ultimately result in me having 4 fewer teeth in my mouth.
However, their genuine concern and understanding created a setting that freed me to be honest.
Are you an easy person to be honest with? Do you create an environment that frees your loved ones to share their secrets with you?
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The Truth is welcome here, because I am the keeper of many secrets. Not only of my own, but others people's secrets as well. In the last year, many women especially at my job & family, share their fears, problems and secrets with me. Mostly for prayer but also to talk and release themselves of the pain of "going it alone". I never tell the secrets, I pray with them and for them alone in my prayer closet ask the Lord to strengthen them. I feel it is my duty not to tell the secrets and somehow they know I don't gossip because they come back and tell me more. I thank God and know that it is God's favor that I am trusted with their most intimate matters. I pray for the knowledge and direction of the Lord to give the support & counsel each seeks and needs. Most only want someone to listen.
I feel being able to keep secrets when you are given an intimate details in another's life is extremely important. One reason why is that I know so many church folks business because a so-called confidant exposed intimate details
of a member's life. I feel distressed when I hear gossip because I know someone could not keep the confidence someone felt in them. The Truth IS welcome here.
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